In time I was fortunate to come across people I could respect, who were successful in the way I viewed success, who gave well-considered advice and opened doors or inspired me to break through my limiting beliefs. In my turn I have mentored, in the navy, as a teacher, a football coach and as a friend.
Mentors connect in a variety of roles for varying lengths of time and what may work out well for one mentee may not be what’s needed for another; there’s no golden rule but there are a few generic skills one should look for in a mentor:
1. Someone who will help you recognise the skills you have as well as the skills you may not realise you have, perhaps you take a skill for granted or just assume everyone has that skill.
2. The mentor can lead you to believe you can achieve something that seemed improbable before, encourage, reassure and be supportive by preventing self-doubt and reminding you no dream is too large.
3. The mentor can provide a positive voice, so important if this is missing in your life.
4. Offering non-judgemental and objective advice, being honest and standing by to help if you falter and many of us do, it’s not a weakness it’s a sign we are pushing on our boundaries.
5. The mentor will be non-judgemental while remaining objective and honest.