For some being more assertive conjures up images of publicly stating your opinion. This might be difficult when you know people disagree, but if you know you are right, or you want to make your opinion heard, you should speak up.
An article on why some people aren’t assertive cites many factors which might trigger our ‘fight-or-flight response’. This response is an evolutionary adaptation that pulls us either to toward aggression or to seek avoidance strategies to relieve any impending stress or anxiety.
These might seem straight forward, but when the moment comes…. as your subconscious anticipates consequences…. anxiety levels rise…. then the ‘flight’ response is triggered and you end up avoiding the moment. This is where hypnosis can help.
The subconscious is there to protect you, instantaneous responses can save you in dangerous situations. It wants you to avoid conflict that might cause danger, anxiety or stress. So based on historical events of a similar nature it will offer you a way to restore calm – avoidance. In the short term you will feel relieved as the anticipated anxiety and stress fades away. However, you will be back where you started and the frustration at not asserting yourself with start to build again.
Hypnosis can help you relax, remain calm and through making positive suggestions to your subconscious new outcomes can be offered to replace old negative ones. The ‘moment’ can be rehearsed, triggers can be set to help you remain calm and in control. In this way the ‘flight’ response will not be activated as your subconscious will have new positive outcomes to reduce the sense of impending conflict.