Often periods of absence seem much longer, missing those special moments that can never be recaptured. Seeing photos or recordings only adds to the feelings of isolation and separation.
This all comes more into focus when away over Christmas. Christmas is magically special. As now, when the world seems far from peaceful, Christmas carries the hope that we can come together despite differences.
And it is to service personnel that falls the responsibility to ensue our safety at home. So Christmas for those on active service can be just another day in which festivities are but a sham pretence. Families worry about separation from their loved ones; will they return safely? Pretence of enjoyment for the sake of the children often pervades the festive period.
Many years ago, having sailed in October and not due home until February, a 3 minute call on Christmas Day to hear my 2 year old shout down the phone “hello daddy!” caused emotional turmoil. I did my best to hide the tears – it wasn’t good to show emotions. Maybe today we are more emotionally mature and able to express feelings openly without fear. Is this true for all?
SSAFA the forces charity is a good place to find information to help you cope with separation. But if you feel the need to hide or shield your feelings hypnosis can offer hope. Understanding feelings, gaining the confidence to express yourself more freely will ease any anxiety. Hypnosis is about allowing you to relax, to ease away the stress and replace some of those niggling worries with more positive thoughts.
Find out more about coping with the stress of Christmas .